from: mehdi_ir...@...
hii have a great problemi think that i am a gay.in iran having relationship among boys and girls is prohibited till marriage.so from childhood ,i had not allowed to relate with girls.so gradully,my trend toward them vanished,and now i think that i dont wanna relate to them.but since we hd been allowed to relate with boys,i used to like pretty boys,but belive me,i didnt had any sexual relationship with them and even no talking but when i was seeing them,i was enjoying,and recently i found out that i am kind of gay but still dont have any sexual or even serious relationship with them,when i see them,i lose my confidence and overwhelm toward them even for two week and this problem hurts me!!i n iran watching porn movies,gay or lesbian stuff and any kind of sexual relationship except at time of marriage is illegal.from other side i am 21 and a student and dont like to marry at least for five years,i dont have enough money to go abroad and even i cant tell my friends or even my family that i am a gay sincein iran not being gay,even having girlfriend is considered taboo,illegal and offensive.i have three brothers ,i am the youngest and cant tell my problem to my relatives or families,if i tell a boy that even i like them,they consider me as acorruptive,but lets tell s.th about me,i have low self confidence,i dont have any good social relationship and not easygiong,have few friends and not having alot of relationships between them except for study matters and from the childhood,having a pretty and good and intimate friend (boy) was my wish!i just attracted to boys of near my ages (17-23) not else!!!i dont have enough money to go to a psychologist!please help me to solve it onlinely!!u can chat with me about the remedy!thanks anyway.please respond as soon as possible
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I think you must get back to the basic rule about Adam and Eve. Get back to the basic which is religion, close yourself to God. There's nothing impossible to God. Ask for your wish continuously. Try to change your inside, to love a woman and not to love a man, gradually. Because that's why you were created, to love a woman who will be your wife.
BalasHapushi :) there really is no easy answer to your problem. the only thing i can think of is moving away, possibly to america or anywhere that you will be free to show your sexuality without getting punished for it. i really do think thats ridiculous that being gay is against the law in iran. im not gay, ive been with my boyfriend for almost 7 months, but i have so many friends that are gay so i kind of understand what you're going through. is there really no friends or family you can talk to about it? im sure someone would understand, no matter if its against the law or not, theyre your support and they should try to be there for you in any way they can. is it possibly at all that you're just slightly confused and you arent actually gay? maybe you just need to try being with a girl and feeling a girls touch and then you'll realize you arent gay. anything is worth a try in your situation, because its definitely a big problem. i understand that your culture and everything is different though so maybe some of the solutions that would work just fine in my country dont work in yours. let me know if ive been any help at all :)
BalasHapus